We all have those black corners in our mind where we would rather not go.

They are home to our worst fears, biggest regrets and darkest secrets.

For most of us they remain closed off to our conscious minds, only occasionally leaking their effects into the daylight of our everyday lives.

This may show itself in any number of ways, from increased stress levels to a lack of patience with our loved ones.

It’s important, therefore, for our own health and the well-being of those around us, that we hold a candle to these corners and attempt to shine the light of understanding on our darkness.

We have a tendency to avoid those things that we are afraid of. Or that we feel guilty about.

Yet, we cannot overcome fear or guilt by avoiding or burying them.

Burying issues takes away some of our natural innocence and vulnerability – which are essential for us to be truly open and caring with others.

We need to be able to look deep into our own hearts and feel love for the person we find there if we can ever hope to feel true, unconditional love for another human being.

Those who face their darkest corners, who tilt the candle at the blackness, are far more able to be forgiving of the frailties and imperfections in others.

None of us are perfect, but we like to think that we are.

By turning the light of understanding inwards, we are able to be more caring and compassionate to those around us.

When that happens, we find that life becomes more loving, rewarding and vibrant.

By facing the blackness inside we will see the colour outside more vividly.