Sometimes our instinct to protect our loved ones from pain or suffering in life can be counter productive.

Our eagerness to protect can smother them and prevent them from learning the lessons that they need to learn to protect themselves in the future.

For we can’t always be there when things get difficult for them. We can’t protect anyone from every harsh word, inconsiderate act or bully that they will encounter in their life.

They need to develop and practise the skills and confidence that will enable them to protect themselves.

Often, the most loving thing we can do is to allow them the space to work things out for themselves, whilst making sure that they know that we are here for them if needed.